I fumble through day after day of waking up pretending I am okay living without him. The truth is I lie every single day to myself with affirmations like “death is a part of life"or"he is in a better place",and "he is no longer suffering”.
...or life simply demands change, it is a painful process.
Art has long been a way to channel feelings and bring about emotional healing. Many artists find a time of stress and grief to be a productive time creatively, channeling their emotions into powerful images of universal human suffering
A Meaningful Thanksgiving I find daily life that is made of anything but meaning, pointless. Books that deal with drama, uninteresting. Gatherings that have superficial conversations, waste of time. And at this juncture I always add, especially for those of us who have endured loss. The time we spend in the nothingness of routine can actually put us in depression. Maybe one … Continue reading Have a Meaningful Thanksgiving
And it comes when it wants to, and it carves you out — it comes in the middle of the night, comes in the middle of the day, comes in the middle of a meeting, comes in the middle of a meal.
It is also a time of year that can be emotionally exhausting, especially if a loved one died during the last year. Combined with a vulnerability to Seasonal Affective disorder, the season and aftermath can be very difficult.
married couples develop a certain rhythm, gravity, and coloration to the annual cycle, and so those first twelve months of widowhood propose at every turn a terrible choice:
Living with grief is an animal experience, and surviving it requires the action of a body that knows how to keep being when the mind couldn’t possibly go on.